fun little trick I learned in therapy: validation. when someone is upset, don’t try to fix the problem, point out the cause, or tell them it could be worse. just validate their emotions. be like, ‘shit yeah man, that sucks. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m here for you.’ that’s literally all you have to do to make them feel better. thank you and goodnight.
Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism.
Mary Pipher, Clinical Psychologist and Author, Reviving Ophelia (via sunshine-machine)
this should have been reblogged a million times already.
And remember, they are socialized to accept rape culture as “masculinity” and “normal.” This isn’t inherent biology. So they can be socialized away from it. This quote = everything.